Susan is a native Californian. She spent her school years in Montana and South Dakota and returned to California when she was 19. Susan’s brothers, sisters, mother, and father all live in other states but she has aunts uncles and cousins with whom we remain close here in the Bay Area. Technology has definitely helped us all stay in touch with those out of state. Whether it’s Face Book, Skype, texting or emailing. We have and will continue to travel to visit Susan’s family in Montana, South Dakota, and Ohio.
Jim’s family has lived in San Francisco for four generations. His family, which consists of an older sister and younger brother and their children, are very close. All of Jim’s family and his extended family have stayed connected throughout the years. On the Sunday before Christmas there is a long-standing tradition where all of Jim’s family get together for brunch. Just last year there were 57 attendees! We are looking forward to bringing our child to this fun family event with cousins, aunts, uncles, sisters and brothers, spouses and children - including other adoptees.
We both love tradition and our concept of home, family, community, and values has been passed down to us from our families. We are so excited to add our own family traditions to go along with the ones we already share with our families.
Our relationship is based on honesty, with ourselves and with each other as individuals. We believe that If you don’t have honesty you cannot build a nurturing, loving relationship with anyone.
As was the case with Jim and his sister, Marianne, our child will always know he or she is adopted. We want our child to know that the word “adopted” does not carry secrets. We will respect your decision regarding contact after the adoption is final, but we will always tell your child of his or her mother’s sacrifice and gift to us.