Herby is loving, witty, creative and deeply empathetic. He loves to laugh, he loves to challenge, he spends a lot of time worrying and a lot of time thinking about what is right - for us as a couple, for the planet, for his friends, for his co-workers. He loves people in small doses and he hates driving. He is rightfully proud of the work he’s put into himself and our life, as he’s been a driving force in our financial stability, where we achieved the dream of owning our own home, and bettering our overall health, focusing on eating better and exercising more. He’s so charming that I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone do anything other than love him immediately (I’m living proof) and his fiery, passionate spirit comes through in equal parts suave and sass. He enjoys reusing things, like cutting up old t-shirts to use as rags around the house, but he gets a secret thrill when it’s time to spend some money.
Herby loves music and while he’s unlikely to admit it, I’m pretty sure he can be caught singing into the broom like a microphone when nobody’s around. He volunteers for the Trevor Project, a nonprofit that provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services for LGBT youth. He loves video games and over-the-top television and fills much of his leisure time with one or the other. He has a beautiful heart and truly cares about making sure we are doing things both big and small to leave the world around us better than how we found it.
Herby is the kind of person you want to be your friend, or your family. He will protect our child with the ferocity of a bear and provide a living example of what it means to do right in the world. We’ve been together almost 17 years and every day he teaches me something new. When we met, Herby was studying to be a preschool teacher. Even though that wasn’t the career path he chose, he’s been waiting years to put the early childhood education to use with our own child. Herby will be a stay at home dad and is really excited to watch all of our child’s firsts - first crawl, first steps, first laugh and first words. Herby is already planning our first family Halloween costumes but hasn’t settled on which Disney movie wins for the first one, and I can’t wait to watch him help our child grow.