Glen Park neighborhood of San Francisco
Aaron E: Writing
Aaron H: Watching reality TV
Aaron E: Archaeologist
Aaron H: Veterinarian
Aaron E: Ellen DeGeneres
Aaron H: Kamala Harris
Aaron E: Nebraska
Aaron H: Michigan
We are Aaron and Aaron, a loving couple in our 30’s who live in San Francisco. Adoption is already a big part of our family history. All of Aaron E’s sisters and brother are adopted from India and Korea.
We are big believers in open adoption. We want our child to know the whole story of their life. And we also want you as a birth parent to have a role for the rest of their life.
Our friends introduced us more than 10 years ago. They knew we would hit it off, and of course they thought it was funny we have the same name. They were right.
We’re both into doing things that are out of the ordinary.
We have a long list of places where we’ve traveled together and a longer list of places we still want to go with our family. Last year we crawled in glacier caves in Iceland and washed elephants in Thailand. We also try to go to Mexico at least once a year where Aaron E can keep his Spanish from getting dusty. We know that having a child will add some extra planning to these trips, but it will also make them so much more special.
But don’t think that we are extreme adventurers in our everyday lives. Most nights after work we just come home, make dinner, walk our dog to the park, read, and watch Netflix. If it’s warm outside, we’ll go to the beach to watch the sunset.
We have a lot more in common than just our names. We both are big fans of politics, books, hiking, and music. We also share the same deep values that guide the way we live our lives: kindness, humor, and equality.
We are so excited to start growing our family.
Aaron H brings so much joy to everyone in his life. That joy is going to be unstoppable when he’s a Dad.
He’s outgoing and loves trying new things. At the dinner table, he’s the one telling stories that make everyone laugh. He likes to make plans and fill up every weekend with activities like hikes to secret beaches, trips to new art shows, tickets to random plays in little theatres, and vacations to exotic places he’s never been like Iceland and Japan.
I love that he puts so much care and effort into making a normal day special. I can’t even imagine what he will dream up to do with our child.
Although he loves new adventures, he also loves getting together with old friends and holds those relationships closer than most people do. On so many occasions, he’s the one his friends call when they need a ride to the hospital when they’re sick or for advice when they had a tough day. He’s going to be there every minute for our child.
Aaron H doesn’t sugarcoat what’s on his mind. That open communication has been key to our great relationship. He will do the same as a father, and our child will be a considerate person who cares about other people and makes good decisions.
I have never met anyone who hasn’t liked Aaron E. In fact, most people ask how I landed someone so warm and genuine. He’s modest, so let me elaborate on some of the points he won’t say about himself:
He’s spent his whole life and career focused on helping other people – including adopted children. When we first started dating, he worked for a nonprofit called Global Action For Children and had just published his book about adoption, from which he donated all proceeds to an orphanage. As if that’s not enough, he has volunteered every week for many years at an organization called ScholarMatch which helps kids from low-income first generation families go to college.
He is already an obsessive dog Dad. Any time our pup has a limp or upset stomach he is ready to rush her to the emergency room. The past 7 years has just been a glimpse into what he will be like as a Dad, and I honestly can’t wait.
Aaron means so much to his 4 adopted siblings. He’s there for them when they show up on our doorstep after a fight with their boyfriend, and he’s talked on the phone for hours when they have problems at work. Being able to have Aunts & an Uncle who were adopted too will be awesome.
We live in a quiet neighborhood that feels like its own small town in San Francisco. We can walk 5 minutes to a little library, market, gym, and ice cream shop.
Our house is a cottage with a yard and every room has a bookshelf and plants in the window. For years, we’ve been filling a whole wall with our favorite books lined up on shelves from the floor to the ceiling. Aaron H’s new hobby is gardening so our window sills also have neat rows of plants that he grows until they’re big enough to plant in the yard.
We have a 7-year-old dog named Cow that we’ve taken care of since she was a young puppy. There’s a big 100-acre park down the street from our house with a playground and baseball field and trails that we walk to every day with Cow for a bit of tranquility.
We have a bedroom next to ours that we’re planning to be the baby’s nursery. It has french doors, star twinkle lights, and and a window that faces the yard so it will always be quiet and peaceful.
We both work normal daytime hours and are home every night and weekend. We also are lucky to be able to take off almost a whole year of parental leave from our jobs so we can stay at home and raise our new child.
Aaron E’s family is preparing to move to California in the next year. After a lifetime living in Nebraska and dealing with snow, Aaron E’s parents are going to retire and move west to California to live closer to us and their future grandchild. Having family nearby is going to be wonderful as we adjust to being parents. And they’re going to add even more love (and toys and books) to our son or daughter’s life.
Our friendships are very important to us and we’re lucky to have a close family of friends in the San Francisco Bay Area and across the country. In the past few years, many of our friends have become parents so our child will get to grow up with lots of children around. Our friends’ kids love Aaron H because he makes them laugh and they like talking with Aaron E because he’s great at connecting with them about what they care about.
Thank you for getting to know us.
Having a child together was one of the earliest conversations that we had in our relationship. Ten years later we are ready to be the kind of parents we’ve always wanted to be. We can’t wait to share our love, and do everything we can to provide him or her a home and life that is full of happiness and opportunity.
We are also excited to include you in our child’s life. From our own family, we know how important it is for adopted children to know their story and understand the deep love that went into your and our decisions to choose adoption.